tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613210263413208128.post8340709621485085126..comments2023-07-04T10:45:31.816-04:00Comments on Malpighian Corpuscle: The one that got awayUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613210263413208128.post-79866814830574797222015-01-12T15:34:51.612-05:002015-01-12T15:34:51.612-05:00Lots of good can come from telling someone that.
...Lots of good can come from telling someone that.<br /><br />It can lead to recounting some fun memories.<br /><br />It can lead to a better understanding of *why* they "got away" (which, in reality, is always more about one or both people realizing things weren't going to work anyway... and being able to actively and honestly realize why things didn't work is *always* a benefit for all involved).<br /><br />It can lead to a reminder that they didn't "get away"... you did... and have been better off for it.<br /><br />It can show you how much you've grown in your appreciation (and choice) of partners since then... or how you're still hung up on that person who didn't work out (which loops back up to a previous point or two).<br /><br />It's no secret I'm a big fan of telling people how I feel or have felt about them. Very, very rarely has that gone bad. At the worst, it gets rid of people who aren't comfortable with the idea of feelings changing or, y'know, honesty about feelings. It lest everyone involved know where they stand right now.<br /><br />Sure, if, as you mention, the motive isn't just one of honesty and sharing, there can be some serious problems. But maybe, just maybe, a person sharing for those completely selfish and subversive reasons will learn their lesson when they get told flat-out that's it specifically behavior like that which lead to that other "getting away."<br /><br />Self-knowledge: It can hurt like hell... but when it sticks, it's awesomely useful. ;)Kierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00728515625577005111noreply@blogger.com