If you find yourself doing something regularly, ask what do I get out of this?
Be brutally honest with your answer. After all, no one will hear it but you.
The answer can sometimes be enlightening. It can also act as a catalyst for change, for once you admit to yourself your motive, will you want to change it? This is why they say "the first step is acknowledging it" because without awareness, how can you exact action?
Obviously, he's fun, hot as hell and smells better than any other man on the planet, but aside from that, I like who I am when we're together. I want to cook and serve my man dishes that make him smile and sleep with my arms wrapped around him and not be on Facebook because my real life is larger than my online life.
Maybe this means I am too connected. That I am craving more creative pursuits and downtime because it's more meaningful.
I've gotten myself into a bind with this view, as a kindof social media example among peers. I use these tools freely even if somewhat opinionated about "best" use. I like when community-building tools are actually used to connect people through ideas and experiences and not simply transmitting narcissistic broadcasts.
|Illustration from The Oatmeal|
|This hilarious example is also from The Oatmeal|
Now I'm on there every day. (Granted, I don't do the above!)
Probably the turning point (for when I started to see Facebook's value) was when I began to make new friends.
Normally you'd have to hang out with a person several times before getting to know the deeper parts of them, and even then the first few times are always a little awkward, but social media started to take away that outer veneer of shyness for me. I could meet someone at a party and see them 3 months later but suddenly they weren't so much of a stranger because we had done the digital equivalent of riding the bus together every day. Conversations were easier to start and maintain and so these tools grew on me.