|It isn't pretty.|
|(Or you could just ask your mom.)|
1. Does it feel like freedom or entrapment?A truly healthy decision passes all four with flying colors.
2. Does it feel easy or forced?
3. Does it feel very fun, compelling or stimulating?
4. Does it feel like peace or mania? (Is there an inner stillness?)
recent possibilities. I went out with Last Year Guy and while sitting next to him at the salad place, I imagined sitting next to him at the salad place a year from now, and something in me suddenly felt trapped. And the idea of getting together again felt forced. It did feel peaceful, however, and usually even felt fun, but for whatever reason, it only passed 2 of those 4 questions. Who knows why it wasn't resonating? Maybe someday it will -- he's such a great guy, I wish it could have worked.
Anyway, so we'll see. Tonight is the last night to pretend I'm ready for love... tomorrow is the test!