Why is perseverance revered everywhere but matters of the heart? "You're trying too hard," people say when they know you are looking for love. But no one would say this if you were pursuing a career. There's stigma whichever way you go.
If you find someone right away, you're settling.
If you don't, you're picky.
If you date one person at a time, you're a "serial" dater.
If you play the field, you're a "player."
If you try and it doesn't work, there's something "wrong" with you (not that you have ideals and it just takes TIME).
If you say, "I like being single," no one believes you.
If you say you are lonely, then you are desperate.
If you say you're not, you have some kind of dismissive avoidant attachment style.
If you shrug off comments, you're flippant.
If you tell people to leave you alone, you're defensive.