"The first time someone tells you who they are, listen." Maya AngelouThis question of the week comes from a personal discussion: what are some dating red flags?
To me, red flags are signs that someone may not be stable, caring or on the same page. Take note:
- Do they seem callous towards other people? Do they talk about others dismissively or with care? Do they have a history of stable, caring relationships? Do they treat waitstaff and strangers with respect? You want someone who values people and relationships.
- Do they seem into you? They're into you if they reach out. If you're the only one reaching out, they're not that into you.
- Red flag: if it doesn't seem like self-care is a priority (for example, what do they complain about regularly and what are they doing to solve it? Like, if they're always sleep-deprived, why are they unable to self-regulate and get sleep?)
- Do they pay attention to, and are they receptive of feedback?